Studying Malignant Narcissism: A Personal, yet Psychologically Educational Point of View

Narcissism, specifically, Malignant Narcissism, has become an interesting subject for me.  I've had personal experience with malignant narcissists.  I dated one for about 9 months, and despite the fact that it was a short time, it was definitely enough to deal with when it came to the emotional and verbal abuse that I succumbed to.  I did not know what it was then.  I just remember that I believed every horrible thing he said about me and then believed that it was my fault he said those horrible things.  He was an actor who, while he was not very good on the stage, he was awesome at playing the victim in life.  Malignant narcissists tend to play the role of the victim especially when they are caught doing wrong.  They hate it when their narcissism is brought to light and will make it a point to make you feel like you were the one who was lying or in the wrong and that it caused them to "react" the way they did.  Their tolerance for criticism is lacking especially when it comes to the truth.  The reason for this is because truth forces them to face their own malignant narcissism.  Despite their "self-love" it is really a disguise for their own deep rooted self-hate.  Where does it come from, though?  How does it get started?  Surely something had to give for them to stay pathological children. 

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Thank you for reading…

Ami

MS in Mental Health Counseling Graduate student at Walden University

References:

http://samvak.tripod.com/faq79.html

http://www.deconstructingjezebel.com/narcissistic-injury.html

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Misogyny

http://www.deconstructingjezebel.com/malignant-narcissism-part-two.html